When clients get activated in session—crying or raging or numbing-out/flat-lining—therapists often remind them to drop down and check in with their bodies. Reports from the body include tight chests, tingling hands, neck pain, pressured eyes, the list goes on.

The Window of Tolerance is a visual and metaphorical map of your nervous system. It helps you know when you are triggered and lose your emotional balance, causing painful or frightened responses, or, paradoxically, no response at all. When triggered, we can feel too much (hyper-arousal) which rouses us to action, or too little/numb (hypo-arousal) which allows us to opt out of, or escape perceived discomfort.

Under One Small Star by Wislawa Szymborska

My apologies to chance for calling it necessity.

My apologies to necessity if I’m mistaken, after all.

Please, don’t be angry, happiness, that I take you as my due.

May my dead be patient with the way my memories fade.

1. Begin with Awareness

2. Check the Content

3. Storyline and Back-Tracking

4. Self-Compassion

WELCOME to what we are calling our Gobl (Blog rearranged) a full meal of psychological morsels, from full courses to savory and fascinating sides, and desserts .

It’s not the weight you carry
but how you carry it—
books, bricks, grief—
it’s all in the way
you embrace it, balance it, carry it
when you cannot, and would not,
put it down. . .